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Previously:
The Games We Play (II)
The Way We Were
On the Upper East Side, the possibilities are endless. Dom or Krug. Winston or Cartier. Tory or Stella. John or Grindr Boy.
Eventually even the people with everything have to choose. But sometimes, you learn that the choice has already been made for you.
Dating, it seems, has never been this fun. There's always a new boy to add to the list; some new guy you met at a party or through a friend. Sometimes you feel you just might have it all.
Grindr Boy and I made plans to meet that night. I was excited to see him again and I planned my day so we can have the evening together. I checked the calendar and made sure I scheduled my appointments with other guys on other days so there would be no conflict.
A few minutes before we were supposed to meet, I texted him to ask where he was. He didn't reply. After a few more minutes, I called him but he didn't pick up. I was getting worried and puzzled. I called him several times more but it looked like I was getting stood up.
Oh well, I told myself. Just when you thought things were going well. Grindr Boy was nice enough but he had been acting strange. He would at times not respond to my calls and messages but I always attributed it to his busy schedule.
A few days later, Grindr Boy suddenly texted.
"I'm now officially taken :(," he said.
I was stunned. Officially taken? What does that mean? Was he unofficially taken before and it now became official?
Every now and then, I would ask Grindr Boy about the other guys he's dating and he always said he wasn't seeing anyone. And I believed him. My thoughts were still in a disarray so I composed myself before I sent my response.
"Wow, this is a surprise. I guess this is it," I said. "Masaya ako para sa iyo. (I am happy for you.) I mean, I know how wonderful it is to find love."
"Kane, I'm sorry if I lied," Grindr Boy said. "He's my boyfriend for three years now. I met you during the time we were having problems."
Woooohhh. The hell. I couldn't believe it. I had been duped all along. This sweet boy with the sweetest smile turned out to be a lying, scheming bastard.
Uh oh. Spotted: K learning that two can play this game. It looks like our star player … just got played. Outwitted by a boy almost a decade younger than he is, tsk tsk. Talk about a coup de grace, ladies.
"I just got scared you might get mad and won't talk to me again. Masaya kasi ako (I'm happy) when we're together," Grindr Boy continued. "I hope we can still be friends."
I heaved a deep sigh. Of course I understand him. I suppose I should have known better.
"I accept your apology. I understand how complicated relationships can be," I said. "I guess it explains a lot of things. Three years is something, you know. You should be proud."
The next day …
"Were you really surprised?" Gino asked me, disbelievingly. "Couldn't you see the signs that he was hiding something?"
I shook my head. "You know what, maybe I trust people too easily. I guess I always expect people to be honest. Are we not ba?"
"Eh siyempre Kane. I mean, ikaw ba, do you always tell your boys everything?"
"Well, not everything I suppose. But I do tell them that I'm seeing other guys. That way, expectations are clear. And I've always done that. I don't want people feeling like I led them on."
Gino and I were both quiet for awhile. He knew I did like Grindr Boy.
"Well, there's still John," Gino pointed out.
"Oh, I stopped seeing him already. I guess it just wasn't working."
"Meron ka pa naman ibang boys. (Well, you still have other boys)," he said.
"Yeah, but they're really just for fun," I replied. "I actually thought Grindr Boy and I could have something more, you know."
"So much for the one huh," Gino said.
"Or the other one. Sigh. Sometimes, people can really be so disappointing. They say they're one thing but end up to be something else."
They say you reap what you sow. Instead of too many choices, you suddenly have none. Lonely Boy finally learns the truth, only to realize it's a little too late. That perhaps, the time for love has once again come and gone.
It was a Sunday night and I was trying to rest after a tiring weekend. My phone suddenly beeped. "Kamusta? (How are you?)" Albert asked.
I called him up. "Hey! What are you doing? Listen ... remember the date you promised."
"I was wondering when you're free to meet," I said.
"Let me know if you can get away from your boyfriend."
XOXO
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Previously:
The Games We Play (II)
The Way We Were
On the Upper East Side, the possibilities are endless. Dom or Krug. Winston or Cartier. Tory or Stella. John or Grindr Boy.
Eventually even the people with everything have to choose. But sometimes, you learn that the choice has already been made for you.
Dating, it seems, has never been this fun. There's always a new boy to add to the list; some new guy you met at a party or through a friend. Sometimes you feel you just might have it all.
Grindr Boy and I made plans to meet that night. I was excited to see him again and I planned my day so we can have the evening together. I checked the calendar and made sure I scheduled my appointments with other guys on other days so there would be no conflict.
A few minutes before we were supposed to meet, I texted him to ask where he was. He didn't reply. After a few more minutes, I called him but he didn't pick up. I was getting worried and puzzled. I called him several times more but it looked like I was getting stood up.
Oh well, I told myself. Just when you thought things were going well. Grindr Boy was nice enough but he had been acting strange. He would at times not respond to my calls and messages but I always attributed it to his busy schedule.
A few days later, Grindr Boy suddenly texted.
"I'm now officially taken :(," he said.
I was stunned. Officially taken? What does that mean? Was he unofficially taken before and it now became official?
Every now and then, I would ask Grindr Boy about the other guys he's dating and he always said he wasn't seeing anyone. And I believed him. My thoughts were still in a disarray so I composed myself before I sent my response.
"Wow, this is a surprise. I guess this is it," I said. "Masaya ako para sa iyo. (I am happy for you.) I mean, I know how wonderful it is to find love."
"Kane, I'm sorry if I lied," Grindr Boy said. "He's my boyfriend for three years now. I met you during the time we were having problems."
Woooohhh. The hell. I couldn't believe it. I had been duped all along. This sweet boy with the sweetest smile turned out to be a lying, scheming bastard.
Uh oh. Spotted: K learning that two can play this game. It looks like our star player … just got played. Outwitted by a boy almost a decade younger than he is, tsk tsk. Talk about a coup de grace, ladies.
"I just got scared you might get mad and won't talk to me again. Masaya kasi ako (I'm happy) when we're together," Grindr Boy continued. "I hope we can still be friends."
I heaved a deep sigh. Of course I understand him. I suppose I should have known better.
"I accept your apology. I understand how complicated relationships can be," I said. "I guess it explains a lot of things. Three years is something, you know. You should be proud."
The next day …
"Were you really surprised?" Gino asked me, disbelievingly. "Couldn't you see the signs that he was hiding something?"
I shook my head. "You know what, maybe I trust people too easily. I guess I always expect people to be honest. Are we not ba?"
"Eh siyempre Kane. I mean, ikaw ba, do you always tell your boys everything?"
"Well, not everything I suppose. But I do tell them that I'm seeing other guys. That way, expectations are clear. And I've always done that. I don't want people feeling like I led them on."
Gino and I were both quiet for awhile. He knew I did like Grindr Boy.
"Well, there's still John," Gino pointed out.
"Oh, I stopped seeing him already. I guess it just wasn't working."
"Meron ka pa naman ibang boys. (Well, you still have other boys)," he said.
"Yeah, but they're really just for fun," I replied. "I actually thought Grindr Boy and I could have something more, you know."
"So much for the one huh," Gino said.
"Or the other one. Sigh. Sometimes, people can really be so disappointing. They say they're one thing but end up to be something else."
They say you reap what you sow. Instead of too many choices, you suddenly have none. Lonely Boy finally learns the truth, only to realize it's a little too late. That perhaps, the time for love has once again come and gone.
It was a Sunday night and I was trying to rest after a tiring weekend. My phone suddenly beeped. "Kamusta? (How are you?)" Albert asked.
I called him up. "Hey! What are you doing? Listen ... remember the date you promised."
But that's the thing with players.
"I was wondering when you're free to meet," I said.
They can never resist the game.
"Let me know if you can get away from your boyfriend."
And on the Upper East Side, only one thing is certain: let a new game begin.
XOXO
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12 comments:
@kane: attagirl, K!! that's the spirit!! go get 'em boys, Huntress!! --- But that's the thing with players. They can never resist the game. And on the Upper East Side, only one thing is certain: let a new game begin.
I admire the level of maturity you've reached. It's not easy and I know somehow it bites. I would feel sad for you if I didn't know you are Kane, after all.
As always, its not your lost but his. But hey, you too have boys on the side diba? Its not like you have closed your doors and declared yourself exclusive.
It's almost like you're in a status quo, and then suddenly, a sneak move and boom! He's gone.
Kanya kanyangtrip yan. Hehe. Enjoy Kane! :)
hmm.. he was seeing you when they were having problems, so maybe in his mind that justifies that he is "officially" single at that time.
And now we know how cunning these youths really are...
Whether you like it or not.
we only think we don't have choices. dami dyan. guys like you kane will find it easy to get other prospects.
correct...
Just be open to other possibilities and options : ) May mga tao talagang ganyan hehehe : )
go girl, i mean KANE! hahaha. :)
Don't hate the player. Hate the game. haha I wish it were that easy for everybody to brush things off.
I love the way you handled the situation with Grindr Boy. It took a lot of maturity and understanding to forgive such a bastard.
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